The Irreplaceable Void

4 years ago, an accident took my beloved away and very often I wonder, how does my wife, who is now in the heavenly realm, feel right now? She must be feeling extremely sad for leaving a husband who is incapable to taking care of the house and the kid. Because that is the exact feeling that I have, as I feel that I have failed to provide for the physical and emotional needs of my child, and failed to be the good dad and mum for my child.
There was one particular day, when I had an emergency at work. Hence, I had to leave home whilst my child was still sleeping. So thinking that there was still rice leftovers, I hastily cooked an egg and left after informing my sleepy child.
With the double roles, I am often exhausted at work as well as when I am home. So after the long day, I came home, totally exhausted. So with just a brief hug and kiss for my child, I went straight into the room, skipping dinner. I jumped into my bed with intention of just having a well-deserved sleep, all I heard and felt was broken porcelain and warm liquid! I flipped open my blanket, and there lies the source of the 'problem'... a broken bowl with instant noodles and a mess on the bed sheet and blanket!
Man, was I mad! I was so furious that I took a clothes hanger, charged straight at my child who was happily playing with his toy, and give him a good spanking! He merely cried but not asking for mercy, except a short explanation:
"Dad, I was hungry and there wasn't anymore leftover rice. But you were not back yet, hence I wanted to cook some instant noodles. But I remembered you reminding me not to touch or use the gas stove without any adults around, hence I turned on the shower and used the hot water from the bathroom to cook the noodles. One is for you and the other is for me. I was afraid that the noodles will turn cold, so I hid it under the blanket to keep it warm till you return. But I forgot to remind you 'cos I was playing with my toys...I am sorry Dad..."
At that moment, tears were starting to run down my cheeks...but I didn't want my son to see his dad crying so I dashed into the bathroom and cried with the shower head on to mask my cries. After that episode, I went towards my son to give him a tight hug and applied medication on him, while coaxing him to sleep. Then, it was time to clear up the mess on the bed. When everything was done and well past midnight, I passed my son's room, and saw that he was still crying, not from the pain on his little buttock, but from looking at the photograph of his beloved mummy.
A year has passed since that episode, I have tried, in this period, to focus on giving him both the love of his dad and mum, and to attend to most of his needs. And soon, he is turning seven, and will be graduating from kindergarten. Fortunately, the incident did not leave a lasting impression on his childhood memories and he is still happily growing up.
However, not so long ago, I hit my boy again, with much regret. This time, his kindergarten teacher called, informing me of my son's absence from school. I took off early from work and went home, expecting him to explain. But he wasn't to be found, so I went around our house, calling out his name and eventually found him outside a stationery shop, happily playing computer games. I was fuming, brought him home and whack the hell out of him. He did not retaliate, except to say, 'I am sorry, Dad'. But after much probing, I realized that it was a 'Talent Show' organized by his school and the invite is for every student's mummy. And that was the reason for his absence as he has no mummy...
Few days after the caning, my son came home to tell me, the kindergarten has recently taught him how to read and write. Since then, he has kept to himself and stayed in his room to practise his writing, which I am sure, would make my wife proud, if she was still around. 'Because he makes me proud too!
Time passes by very quickly, and soon another year has passed. It's winter, and its Christmas time. Everywhere the Christmas spirit is in every passer-by...Christmas carols and frantic shoppers....but alas, my son got into another trouble. When I was about to knock off from the day's work, the post office called. Due to the peak season, the post master was also on an edgy mood. He called to tell me that my son has attempted to post several letters with no addressee. Although I did make a promise never to hit my son again, I couldn't help but to hit him as I feel that this child of mine is really beyond control. Once again, as before, he apologized, ' I'm sorry, Dad' and no additional reason to explain. I pushed him towards a corner, went to the post office to collect the letters with no addressee and came home, and angrily questioned my son on his prank, during this time of the year.
His answer, amidst his sobbing, was : The letters were for Mummy.
My eyes grew teary, but I tried to control my emotions and continued to ask him: " But why did you post so many letters, at one time?" My son's reply was: "I have been writing to mummy for a long time, but each time I reach out for the post box, it was too high for me, hence I was not able to post the letters. But recently, when I went back to the postbox, I could reach it and I sent it all at once..."
After hearing this, I was lost. Lost at not knowing what to do, what to say......
I told my son, "Son, mummy is in the heavenly Kingdom, so in future, if you have anything to tell her, just burn the letter and it will reach mummy. My son, on hearing this, was much pacified and calm, and soon after, he was sleeping soundly. On promising that I will burn the letters on his behalf, I brought the letters outside, but could not help opening the letter before they turn to ash.
And one of the letters broke my heart....
Dear Mummy,
I miss you so much! Today, there was a 'Talent Show' in school, and the school invited all mothers for the show. But you are not around, so I did not want to participate as well. I did not tell Dad about it as I was afraid that Dad would start to cry and miss you all over again. Dad went around looking for me, but in order to hide my sadness, I sat in front of the computer and started playing games at one of the shops. Dad was furious, and he could not help it but scolded and hit me, but I did not tell him the real reason. Mummy, everyday I see Dad missing you and whenever he think of you, he is so sad and often hide and cry in his room. I think we both miss you very much. Too much for our own good I think. But Mummy, I am starting to forget your face. Can you please appear in my dreams so that I can see your face and remember you? I heard that if you fall asleep with the photograph of the person whom you miss, you will see the person in your dreams. But mummy, why haven’t you appear?
After reading the letter, I can’t stop sobbing. 'For I can never replace the irreplaceable gap left behind by my wife....
For the females with children:
Don't do so much overtime. If you cannot finish the work, it must be some kind of problems within the company, and it is not your sole problem. Feedback to your boss. Endless overtime may not necessary be the answer to the problem. Take care of your health so that you can treasure and take care of your little precious.
For the married men:
Drink less, smoke less, as nothing can replace your good health, not even business nor clients.
Try thinking this way, are you able to work till your clients are totally dependent on you? or your boss is totally dependent on you? In this society, no one is indispensable.
Take care of your health, so that you can take care of your little precious and your loved ones.
For those singles out there:
Beauty lies in loving yourself first.
With confidence and loving yourself, you will see the beauty in other things around you. You will be able to work better and happier. Don't let your health be affected by your work or your boss, so nothing matters more than your well being.
An Article forwarded from Gerald Goh!

Condominium for the Live and Death

South Manila Green Cemetery or simple “South Cemetery” was given to the new cemetery for southern part of the city of manila, opened at San Pedro, Makati, Rizal Province in the year 1925.
There is limited land space for human being living in Manila, there isn’t anything better after death…as there is only two cemetery for Manila.
Solution is to stack up one on top the other… I saw the new condominium in construction, there are roughly 15 storey…And I heard that there is three level under ground. So all up o be 18 levels. It would be no good for Chinese who can not enter Heaven. Well, I hope that al the death would go Heaven… and living there happily forever, is what everyone is looking for a final destination of life…
There are a lot of rich people like to build beautiful Houses for their pass-away family members in the cemetery, and there are many poor people staying there! That was unbelievable. I saw a young school kid trying to climb into the cemetery.. May be he was trying to go Play there of going to his place he stay?
Today, we have to get hold of your available of time and live HAPPILY with our Family, beloved one! And try to help other who may not have a house and HAS to stay with the death… There is such kind of people around us.
How much you donate kids when you fly CX? That may be enough for your next meal, a cup of coffee.. but to the one who reveive the donation, their life might be changed!
Manila Snob

Decorative Seat Belt

Tucker was the first car utilizing the revolution seat belt as a proactive life saving device, but after 65 years, we still can see a lot of people not being able to understanding the importance of the Safety beat. This is Manila, for almost every professional drivers do not like to use the seat belt, only when they are going pass toll station or police block. They pull the belt in front of the body…to SHOW to police.
On the back seat we can find the seat belt but not the socket… That really disappointing us.
Hope that the Taxi driver and taxi company would learn how to take care their passengers by providing them full function of seat belt.
Manila Snob

Aimee Mullins Visited Hong Kong as a motivational Speaker to the youth

Aimee Mullins was born in 1976, an American Athlete, actress and Fashion model who has earned a fame of World’s 50 most beautiful people in the world by People. Despite a medical condition that resulted in the amputation of both of her legs. Amiee recently makes appearances as a motivational speaker and came to Hong Kong for a talk to the young people for how to face with problems and future of challenge.
Aimee competed in the Paralympics in 1996 in Atlanta, in which she ran the 100-meter dash in 17.01 seconds and jumped 3.14 meters in the long-jump.
Also while at Georgetown, Mullins won a place on the Foreign Affairs internship program, working at The Pentagon.
In 1999, she modeled for British fashion designer Alexander McQueen in his London show, on a pair of hand-carved wooden prosthetic legs made from solid ash, with integral boots. She is able to vary her height between 5 ft 8in and 6 ft by changing her legs.
In 2006, she appeared in Movie “World Trade Center”, playing the role of a reporter.
For those who has everything the god provides please do not yell and curse for being badly treated by fate, Hong Kong is a place of peace, wealth and freedom. However, nothing lasts forever. Once you have it all even one day, do treasure it.
HK Snob

For Everyone's sake, you should drive safely in this Christmas!

This is a real touching ad for everyone who used to take alcohol and drugs in parties, celbration and wedding dinner before driving home.
What a Great Aussie Ad Campaign!

This needs to be passed around to everyone who has the keys to a vehicle. This is perhaps one of the most intense commercials that we''ve ever seen and damn well made.
I think that Australia should be complemented on having the guts to "tell it like it is" and get this campaign out to all of its licensed drivers and to air it on TV...it is very moving and very life like…it has a very strong impact.
Forwarded from Singaporean Friend uncle Jack.
Pass it along to all of your friends, Watch it
 
http://www.youtube.com/watch_popup?v=Z2mf8DtWWd8
 
Wish you all a safe and Merry Christmas 2010
 
HK Snob

Chicken Broth for your heart

Apologize to someone you offended.


Do something nice for someone in secret.

Find out what you can do for your community, then do it.

For every compliant you make, think of three reason to be thankful.

Gratitude is the sign of change of heart


Let tomorrow worries about itself… Today.. live…


Listen to the music today and thanks heaven the gift of it


Make a list of regret and burn it and thank heaven we can start again.


Read about the countries you are unfamiliar with and pray for their people.


Six feet on earth makes all men equal


Six of one and half a dozen the other


So far so good


Sometimes the best game is to lose


Sorrow makes the silence the best orator


Sorrow will pay no debt


Small profit, quick return


Sitting your place and none can make you rise.


The singing man keeps him sharp in his throat

...
 
HK Snob

What is the difference between "Complete" and "Finished"?

People say there is no difference between COMPLETE & FINISHED. . but there is:
 If you marry a good wife, you are Complete…

And If you marry a bad wife, you are Finished.
And if you marry a bad wife, devorced and marry again for the second time, but found that your wife is even worst than the first one, you are Completely Finished!
HK Snob

PS. I always mentioned to friends, that if you marry a good wife, you will become a poet, and if you marry a bad wife, you will become a philosopher.

用幽默的心來「轉化」負面情緒

能給對方讚美，就能給自己肯定，自然就能創造雙贏，事事亨通了。日常生活中，讚美別人很重要，對自己的情緒管理也相當的重要，我們的EQ要不斷地提升。
有一個人到餐廳去用餐，可能是店家生意太忙了，竟然忽略了他的存在等了很久，連後來的客人都開始上菜用餐了，他老兄這桌依然沒有服務生過來招呼點菜，換成一般人可能要光火了,可是他情緒管理得相當好，他笑吟吟地走到櫃檯邊對老闆說：「老闆，我好像是坐到觀眾席了，不然怎麼來那麼久，只能光看著別人吃！」
老闆聽了連忙打躬作揖賠不是，很快地給他上了菜。
為人處事做生意，很多難事都可以幽默輕鬆來化解一切，不一定非要弄到雙方「吹鬍子瞪眼」不可，這樣一來反而會適得其反，氣死別人，也氣死自己！
用幽默的心來「轉化」負面情緒，是追求智慧人生非常重要的一門課程，「轉」字很重要[轉]，就是一個「車」再一個「專」字，也就是說，我們要「專心開好人生這部車」的意思，人生的大車絕對不能負氣使性、迷迷糊糊地胡開猛撞啊！
人生，五歲要有五歲的純真,二十要有二十的熱情，三十要有三十的成熟，四十要有四十的穩重，五十要有五十的智慧，六十要有六十的經驗，這就是人生的「轉」字訣。

Forwarded by Henny to me
HK Snob

Things You Must Do Everyday: Smile, and Laugh

HK Snob

How Fun the Life Could be!

Enjoy your life while you can. Don’t wait until we can not even walk just to be sorry and to be regret.
As long as it is physically possible visit places you wish to visit, have you heard about the book “1000 places you have to go before you die”…!? Howe many places you have been there, 10 or 22? Is that Life Is for? Working all days long, screaming the subordinates because they made mistake that you had made before…Scolding your Material Control colleagues that you think they did not do the work properly and cause the delay of the machine to your customers? Believing that you may not be as good a style is, as least not as good experience as they are in their role of works! Try to wear their shoes and be a good man to see their difficulties! Don’t yell all the days and shoot up you blood pressure!
When there is opportunity, get together with your old school mates, classmates, old friend and relative for a chat, drinks and dinner and share their joys with yours. Close your gnikcuf Note Book PC and leave home at 5 to play with you kids sometimes…
Money kept in the bank may not really be yours even there are made up of 11 digits... this is numbers only.
When it is time to spend, just spend it. Treat yourself as well as you are getting old. Share your money with the one you love… or mistress 2nd, 3rd, 4th we do not care... as they are borne to come to your world to enjoy with you "spending…"
If you Pass TSL goldsmith and see a nude diamond of emerald cut with size of your finger tip, go and buy it and send to your most beloved one, who care she is a woman just meet for three days, your mother, sister or even a man….Just do it for the sake of ten seconds of pleasure and happiness to see their gesture of Satisfaction, mesmerizing on you, as you may have time to do it just once… in this Universe…
Whoever our feel like to eat, just goes and eat. It is most important thing to keep you happy. If food that are goof for health, eat often but that is not everything. If things are not good for health, eat less once in a while but do not abstain from them totally.
Treat sickness with Optimism. Whenever you are rich or poor, everyone has to get through the human life process; Birth, Aging, sickness, and death.
There is no exception as that is life. Do not afraid or worry when n you are sick, leave your body to the doctor and Let the God/nature to handle your life, But you must in charge your moods!
Settle the outstanding issues; leave you things to your beloved. And you can leave it without any regret.
Our kids will make their own future… Do not worry about them…
Don’t worry about it, if you had too much money do not know where to go, just send them to the Red Cross, Oxfam, Sowers action, Green Power, or China to support the earthquake recovery programme, if there is still some money, give it to the beggar who has been staying in front of the road asking money, but you had never give him a dime and pretended to not able to catch the eye sight,, walked faster to show that you was busy. You have done enough that kind of shows already! .It is time for you to do something by real actions, give your donations or pension fund all to the charity! Money is sin, and money is dirty, use it all today to help the poor people that really needs them! There are a lot sacred hearts waiting to say “thank you” to you! Make a day the greatest day you could experience wouldn't be kind to you?
If you know you will die in 50 days, that would be very nice! Make a joke to the bank I called “How Shit the Bank Could be”, go and use your maximum credit limit to buy something valuable for your best Friend! Make her a surprise, and leave the bill to the gnikcuf bank manager to write off later after your death!

HK Snob