Difficult season

There are four seasons, like the life we are, having some difficult times like the cold winter. But when the problem is solved, there will come the Spring!

So Do not judge one person by one difficult season!

feverip

PS

Thanks for Carol for the pictures.

Irreplaceable

A story worth sharing 4 years ago, an accident took my beloved away and very often I wonder, how does my wife, who is now in the heavenly realm, feel right now? She must be feeling extremely sad for leaving a husband who is incapable to taking care of the house and the kid.
B'cos that is the exact feeling that I have, as I feel that I have failed to provide for the physical and emotional needs of my child, and failed to be the dad and mum for my child.

There was one particular day, when I had an emergency at work. Hence, I had to leave home whilst my child was still sleeping. So thinking that there was still rice leftovers, I hastily cooked an egg and left after informing my sleepy child.With the double roles, I am often exhausted at work as well as when I am home.

So after a long day, I came home, totally drained of all energy. So with just a brief hug and kiss for my child, I went straight into the room, skipping dinner. However, when I jumped into my bed with intention of just having a well-deserved sleep, all i heard and felt was broken porcelain and warm liquid! I flipped open my blanket, and there lies the source of the 'problem'... a broken bowl with instant noodles and a mess on the bedsheet and blanket!Boy, was I mad! I was so furious that I took a clothes hanger, charged straight at my child who was happily playing with his toy, and give him a good spanking!

He merely cried but not asking for mercy, except a short explanation:"Dad, I was hungry and there wasn't anymore leftover rice. But you were not back yet, hence I wanted to cook some instant noodles. But I remembered you reminding me not to touch or use the gas stove without any adults around, hence I turned on the shower and used the hot water from the bathroom to cook the noodles. One is for you and the other is for me. However, I was afraid that the noodles will turn cold, so I hid it under the blanket to keep it warm till you return. But I forgot to remind you 'cos I was playing with my toys...I am sorry Dad..."

At that moment, tears were starting to run down my cheeks...but I didn't want my son to see his dad crying so I dashed into the bathroom and cried with the shower head on to mask my cries. After that episode, I went towards my son to give him a tight hug and applied medication on him, while coaxing him to sleep. Then, it was time to clear up the mess on the bed. When everything was done and well past midnight, I passed my son's room, and saw that he was still crying, not from the pain on his little buttock, but from looking at the photograph of his beloved mummy.

A year has passed since the episode, I have tried, in this period, to focus on giving him both the love of his dad and mum, and to attend to most of his needs. And soon, he is turning seven, and will be graduating from kindergarten. Fortunately, the incident did not leave a lasting impression on his childhood memories and he is still happily growing up.

However, not so long ago, I hit my boy again, with much regret. This time, his kindergarten teacher called, informing me of my son's absence from school. I took off early from work and went home, expecting him to explain. But he wasn't to be found, so I went around our house, calling out his name and eventually found him outside a stationery shop, happily playing computer games. I was fuming, brought him home and whack the hell out of him. He did not retaliate, except to say, 'I am sorry, Dad'. But after much probing, I realized that it was a 'Talent Show' organized by his school and the invite is for every student's mummy. And that was the reason for his absence as he has no mummy..

Few days after the caning, my son came home to tell me, the kindergarten has recently taught him how to read and write. Since then, he has kept to himself and stayed in his room to practise his writing, which I am sure, would make my wife proud, if she was still around. 'cos he makes me proud too!Time passes by very quickly, and soon another year has passed. It's winter, and its Christmas time. Everywhere the christmas spirit is in every passer-by...Christmas carols and frantic shoppers....but alas, my son got into another trouble. When I was about to knock off from the day's work, the post office called. Due to the peak season, the post master was also on an edgy mood. He called to tell me that my son has attempted to post several letters with no addressee.

Although I did make a promise never to hit my son again, I couldn't help but to hit him as I feel that this child of mine is really beyond control. Once again, as before, he apologized, ' I'm sorry, Dad' and no additional reason to explain. I pushed him towards a corner, went to the post office to collect the letters with no addressee and came home, and angrily questioned my son on his prank, during this time of the year.His answer, amidst his sobbing, was : The letters were for Mummy.

My eyes grew teary, but I tried to control my emotions and continued to ask him: " But why did you post so many letters, at one time?" My son's reply was: " I have been writing to mummy for a long time, but each time I reach out for the post box, it was too high for me, hence I was not able to post the letters. But recently, when I went back to the postbox, I could reach it and I sent it all at once...

"After hearing this, I was lost. Lost at not knowing what to do, what to say....I told my son, " Son, mummy is in the heavenly kingdom, so in future, if you have anything to tell her, just burn the letter and it will reach mummy. My son, on hearing this, was much pacified and calm, and soon after, he was sleeping soundly.

On promising that I will burn the letters on his behalf, I brought the letters outside, but couldnt help opening the letter before they turn to ash. And one of the letters broke my heart....

"Dear Mummy,I miss you so much! Today, there was a 'Talent Show' in school, and the school invited all mothers for the show. But you are not around, so I did not want to participate as well. I did not tell Dad about it as I was afraid that Dad would start to cry and miss you all over again. Dad went around looking for me, but in order to hide my sadness, I sat in front of the computer and started playing games at one of the shops. Dad was furious, and he couldnt help it but scolded and hit me, but I did not tell him the real reason.

Mummy, everyday I see Dad missing you and whenever he think of you, he is so sad and often hide and cry in his room. I think we both miss you very very much. Too much for our own good I think. But Mummy, I am starting to forget your face. Can you please appear in my dreams so that I can see your face and remember you? I heard that if you fall asleep with the photograph of the person whom you miss, you will see the person in your dreams. But mummy, why havent you appear?"After reading the letter, I cant stop sobbing. 'cos I can never replace the irreplaceable gap left behind by my wife....

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For the females with children:
Don't do so much overtime. If you cannot finish the work, it must be some kind of problems within the company, and it is not your sole problem. Feedback to your boss. Endless overtime may not necessary be the answer to the problem. Take care of your health so that you can treasure and take care of your little precious.

For the married men:
Drink less, smoke less, b'cos nothing can replace your good health, not even business nor clients.Try thinking this way, are you able to work till your clients are totally dependent on you? or your boss is totally dependent on you? In this society, no one is indispensable.Take care of your health, so that you can take care of your little precious and your loved ones.

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It was forwarded from a Friend, don't know who the author.., It is a very touching article!


Feverip

Like Father Like Son

The father 86 old and he had given most of his retirement fund to his son to pay for the mortgage and he left almost nothing for his living.

He had been having dementia for a few years. He could not eat properly and caused the dinning table a mess every time after his meal. His son’s wife was shouting loud and made complaints whenever she cleaned the table!

Sooner his son tried to put him at the corner of the dinning room, give him all kinds of disposable paper cups and plates such that his wife would not talk much about it.

The old pa took it not say anything as he is old and he has to rely on his son income to support him for a living, That is already very good not kicking him away at the street like some of the morons are doing in Hong Kong…

One day Old man’s grandson said told his parents the shop at the concern of the street he used to buy that kind of disposable cup and plate was closed, probably he had to buy a lot at better discount as from the whole seller.

His father felt strange and said, “Why? Son, Your Grandpa is very old already and he might not be able to live long, there is no need to buy so many at all!”

His Son said to their parent though grand father was old and it was more advisable to buy in preparation as one day his Father and Mother would one day in need this disposable stuffs…..

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The moral of this story is, how do you treat your father, will be expecting the same you child treating you sooner!

I do hope my daughters and son will not treat me this way!!

Food medicine

HEADACHE? EAT FISH! Eat plenty of fish -- fish oil helps prevent headaches.
So does ginger, which reduces inflammation and pain.

HAY FEVER? EAT YOGURT! Eat a lots of yogurt before pollen season.
Also-eat honey from your area (local region) daily.

TO PREVENT STROKE DRINK TEA! Tea Prevents build-up of fatty deposits on artery walls with regular doses of tea. (actually, tea suppresses appetite and keeps the pounds from invading....Green tea is great for our immune system)!

INSOMNIA (CAN'T SLEEP?) HONEY! Use honey as a tranquilizer and sedative.

ASTHMA? EAT ONIONS!!!! Eating onions helps ease constriction of bronchial tubes. (onion packs place on chest helped the respiratory ailments and actually made breathing better).

ARTHRITIS? EAT FISH, TOO! Salmon, tuna, mackerel and sardines actually prevent arthritis. (fish has omega oils, good for our immune system)

UPSET STOMACH? BANANAS - GINGER! Bananas will settle an upset stomach. Ginger will cure morning sickness and nausea.

BLADDER INFECTION? DRINK CRANBERRY JUICE! High-acid cranberry juice controls harmful bacteria.

BONE PROBLEMS? EAT PINEAPPLE!!! Bone fractures and osteoporosis can be prevented by the manganese in pineapple.

MEMORY PROBLEMS? EAT OYSTERS! Oysters help improve your mental functioning by supplying much-needed zinc.

COLDS? EAT GARLIC! Clear up that stuffy head with garlic. (remember, garlic lowers cholesterol, too.)

COUGHING? USE RED PEPPERS! A substance similar to that found in the cough syrups is found in hot red pepper. Use red (cayenne) pepper with caution-it can irritate your tummy.

BREAST CANCER? EAT Wheat, bran and cabbage Helps to maintain estrogen at healthy levels.

LUNG CANCER? EAT DARK GREEN AND ORANGE AND VEGGIES! A good antidote is beta carotene, a form of Vitamin A found in dark green and orange vegetables..

ULCERS? EAT CABBAGE ALSO! Cabbage contains chemicals that help heal both gastric and duodenal ulcers.

DIARRHEA? EAT APPLES! Grate an apple with its skin, let it turn brown and eat it to cure this condition. (Bananas are good for this ailment)

CLOGGED ARTERIES? EAT AVOCADO! Mono unsaturated fat in avocados lowers cholesterol.

HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE? EAT CELERY AND OLIVE OIL!!! Olive oil has been shown to lower blood pressure. Celery contains a chemical that lowers pressure too.

BLOOD SUGAR IMBALANCE? EAT BROCCOLI AND PEANUTS!!! The chromium in broccoli and peanuts helps regulate insulin and blood sugar.

Kiwi: Tiny but mighty. This is a good source of potassium, magnesium, Vitamin E & fibre. It's Vitamin C content is twice that of an orange.

Apple: An apple a day keeps the doctor away? Although an apple has a low Vitamin C content, it has antioxidants & flavonoids which enhances the activity of Vitamin C thereby helping to lower the risks of colon cancer, heart attack & stroke..

Strawberry: Protective fruit. Strawberries have the sp;highest total antioxidant power among major fruits & protects the body from cancer causing, blood vessels clogging free radicals. (Actually, any berry is good for you..they're high in anti-oxidants and they actually keep us young..........blueberries are the best and very versatile in the health field........they get rid of all the free-radicals that invade our bodies)

Orange : Sweetest medicine. Taking 2 - 4 oranges a day may help keep colds away, lower cholesterol, prevent & dissolve kidney stones as well as lessen the risk of colon cancer.

Watermelon: Coolest Thirst Quencher. Composed of 92% water, it is also packed with a giant dose of glutathione which helps boost our immune system.. They are also a key source of lycopene - the cancer fighting oxidant. Other nutrients Found in watermelon are Vitamin C & Potassium. (watermelon also has natural substances [natural SPF sources] that keep our skin healthy, protecting our skin from those darn UV rays)

Guava & Papaya: Top awards for Vitamin C. They are the clear winners for their high Vitamin C content. Guava is also rich in fibre which helps prevent constipation. Papaya is rich in carotene, this is good for your eyes. (also good for gas and indigestion)

Tomatoes are very good as a preventative measure for men, keeps those prostrate problems from invading their bodies......GOOD as MEDICINE.

Fruit and Vegetable as a function for health

From the table , we can see waht are the goodness of the Fruit and vegetable.
In cas eof constipation, what should we eat!? You can easily find out that we should eat beans and cabbage!

feverip

Food Posioning

Taiwan, a woman suddenly died unexpectedly with signs of bleeding from her ears, nose, mouth & eyes. After a preliminary autopsy it was diagnosed death due to arsenic poisoning death.

Where did the arsenic come from? The police launched an in-depth and extensive investigation. A medical school professor was invited to come to solve the case. The professor carefully looked at the contents from the deceased's stomach, in less than half an hour, the mystery was solved. The professor said: 'The deceased did not commit suicide and neither was she murdered, she died of accidental death due to ignorance!'

Everyone was puzzled, why accidental death? The arsenic is of the U.S. military for carrying rice seedlings H Gao. The professor said: 'The arsenic is produced in the stomach of the deceased.' The deceased used to take 'Vitamin C' everyday, which in itself is not a problem. The problem was that she ate a large portion of shrimp/prawn during dinner. Eating shrimp/prawn is not the problem that's why nothing happened to her family ever though they took the same shrimp/prawn.

However at the same time the deceased also took 'vitamin C', that is where the problem is! Researchers at the University of Chicago in the United States, found through experiments, food such as soft-shell shrimp/prawn contains a much higher concentration of - five potassium arsenic compounds.


Such fresh food by itself has no toxic effects on the human body! However, in taking 'vitamin C', due to the chemical reaction, the original non-toxic - five potassium arsenic (As anhydride, also known as arsenic oxide, the chemical formula for As205) changed to a three potassium toxic arsenic (ADB arsenic anhydride), also known as arsenic trioxide, a chemical formula (As203), which is commonly known as arsenic to the public! Arsenic poisoning have magma role and can cause paralysis to the small blood vessels, "mercapto Jimei"??, inhibits the activity of the liver and fat necrosis change Hepatic Lobules Centre, heart, liver, kidney, intestine congestion, epithelial cell necrosis, telangiectasia. Therefore, a person who dies of arsenic poisoning will shows signs of bleeding from the ears, nose, mouth & eyes. Therefore; as a precautionary measure,

DO NOT take shrimp/prawn when taking 'vitamin C'.


Feverip

暴斃之謎

台灣，一名女人突然無緣無故的七孔流血暴斃，一夜之間，就奔赴黃泉大家下回可 要 多多注意囉！經過初步驗屍 . 斷定為因砒霜中毒而死亡。那砒霜從何而來？ 警員展開了深入而廣泛的調 查。一名醫學院的教授被邀趕來協助破案。 教授仔細地察看了死者胃中取物，不到半個小時，暴斃之謎便 揭曉。教授 說：「死 者並非自殺，亦不是被殺，而是死於無知的『它殺』」！ 大家莫名其妙，何為『它殺』！？那砒霜又是從 韟茖荂 H 教授 說：「砒霜是在 死 者 腹 內 產生的。」
死者生前每天也會服食「維他命 」，這完全沒有問題！問題出在她 晚 餐吃了大量的蝦,吃蝦本身也是沒有問題的，所以她的家人吃了都沒有事，但死者卻同時服用了「維他命 C 」，問題就出在這裡 ! 這種物質食入體內，本身對人體並無毒害作用！但是，在服用「維生素 C 」之 後，由於化學作用，使原來無毒的－五鉀砷 (即砷酸酐，亦稱五氧化砷，其化學式為 As205) ，轉變為有毒的三鉀砷 ( 即亞砷 酸 酐 ) ，又稱為三氧化二砷，其化學式為 (As203) ，這就 是人們俗稱的砒霜 ! 砒霜有原漿毒作用，能麻痺細血管,抑制巰基梅的活性，並使肝臟脂變肝小葉中心壞死，心、肝、腎、腸充血，上皮細胞壞死，毛細血管擴張。故中其毒而死者，常是 七竅出血。

所以；為慎重起見，在服用「維生素 C 」期間，應當忌食蝦類。

feverip

Help Others

There is too many stories of success, and too many sample of so called successful men been seen as celebrities in from of the publicity.
But how knows how much hard work they have been working and did they best they can make at the top of his peak in his career?

Imagine that you are the Vice President of the world largest consumer product group of business which has a capability of few Billions of dollar profit every year. And you work hard from eight to seven everyday and working at your tiny and crackberry for push mails after office hours! Imagine you had to talk to your beloved that sorry you had to leave for attend a phone conference during your vacation to Phuket or New Zealand?

When we you wife called you to the office asking when you could reach home for dinner, you were seem unable to meet the committed time to reach home afterwards! When you daughter shows you her examination result you could hardly hard to find 30 mins. of time for you to review with her result and give your comment on how she is studying. Sometimes you had hard time to memorize all the birthdays of your wife, mother, daughter and son. Do not mention anniversary of marriage.

On the other hand in front your handful good friends eye can show off our recent purchased Limited edition of Patek Philippe Complication watch or a skeleton Platinum Audemars Piguet perpetual calendar driven by a tiny and sophisticated Tourbillion? You had a pair of Rockport loudpskeakd weighed 250Kgf each, your new order Porsche twin turbo car?!

Well, is that an insignia of success? Is that the ultimate target that you would expect an appreciation from your friends, customer, supplier, friends and people you meet at restaurant and banks? Is that the kind of recognition when you select you car makers type instead of the function of it, is that you care more about where your house is situated more than the house itself as to tell which part of Hong Kong you are from?

No, I do not think so, as you know you should be aware that the God will one day testify you when you are at Top of Peak of your carrier, your successful in digging more fortune from your investment and your job?

A friend of mine is a VP of a world largest business player of consumer communication device. What I know him is that he got the supreme power to mobilize resources from one supplier to another, he is well paid at USD$300K a year, he is a man of knowledge, capability, management skill and charisma. Who knows that one day all theses will be taken away as their European headquarters closed the operations in USA! And at the same time his house was totally demolished by torando! But I think he should be glad that one thing he was blessed with his family, everyone in the family is untouched in the accident, they can start all over again. Who know one day he can be a CEO of a fortune 500 company, Who knows of he will be the mayor of the City?

All we have to do is to take a brake when we reach the top of peak in your career, try to figure out what if I would be CEO of a Company, what’s the next target? And what if I reach the new target then, what else I can do to make my fame, money and power be expanding?

Hold a while a think if that is the target of your life, you should move on in their direction, however, are there some more meaningful things you have not done yet…?

How you seen you daughter grown up and get marriage with her beloved boy friend? Did you feel regret that actually you had made mistakes in some of the decision that caused a lot of people loss of their jobs and their families went into trouble for years? Do you think that you should help to create more job opportunity for the society when you are the Powerful CEO? Mayor of a city or a wealthy celebrity of the society? Did you try to give away some of your possession or asset that could possibly helping other families living much better without any effect to your quality of living? There are still a lot of thing we have not accomplished…


Well, Chinese tradition is to try to keep the power and Asset and pass on to his son and daughters. But does it help them at all? Yes, If I were them probably I do the same., but I would leave some of them for the other people who I even Never seen, known them at all, As God said, to give is better than to Take..

Recently God took two lives in our companies, one by the H1N1 and one is unknown, could not wake up one Saturday morning, aged 30 , single…
PHD holder…

Well, Today we are still alive, try to do something helping other people in need and take a few seconds in the morning on what we should do helping people in the Day.


Feverip

Congratulations to those who were born in 40's, 50's and 60's

CONGRATULATIONS TO ALL MY FRIENDS WHO WERE BORN IN THE1940's, 50's, and early 60'sFirst, we survived being born to mothers who smoked and/or drank while they carried us and lived in houses made of asbestos.

They took aspirin, ate century eggs, salted fish, salt eggs and bean Curb, raw egg products, Sardines sliced pork from a can, and didn't get tested for diabetes or cervical cancer.Then after that trauma, our baby cots were covered with bright coloured lead-based paints.We had no childproof lids on medicine bottles, doors or cabinets and when we rode our bikes, we had no helmets or shoes, not to mention, the risks we took hitchhiking.

We never washed hands and never had soap for hand washing and had never heard of SARS, HiN1, HiN2 or H1NN!!

We eat cockroaches, spider, swallowed new borne mice… we did no get stomach trouble.
We go beach learning swimming alone, we did not get drowned, I Went to Kowloon City to watch the drugs addicts on how to “take” their opium and heroin, and I did not get on it.

We ate rice with lark and soya sauce in winter, a lot of eggs, but seem we had no cholesterol problem. Probably we did not have KFC, MacDonald, Pizza Hut, or Burger King too much at that time.

We ate butter not plastic as we put a lot of butter onto the bread, a lot of sugar into the milk tea but we did not have any diabetes. May be we had a lot of walking and a lot of sweat all day outside the house.

I walked to School everyday about loom from Ngai Tau kok to Mongkok Queen Elizabeth School in order to save 40 cents to buy toys, only till now I know that was a great training to my heart and cardiac system.

As children, we would hardly have experienced ride in cars at all till I was 20, we had not seen any car accidents as we had no air bags.

We drank water from the park hose and NOT from a bottle. As we did not buy water in bottle in that time, No one I know bought water, we went to toilet in the park and drink like a fish after the game.

As I did not know what Supermarket or Seven Eleven as we did not have. Only we could go home for boiled water. That took half an hour on foot.

We ate a lot of moon cakes, no one stops us and no one get problem after the moon cake, Nowadays, no one can afford to take 2 double yolk Moon cake a day We ate cupcakes, white bread and real butter and drank soft drinks with sugar in it, but we weren't overweight.

because......WE WERE ALWAYS OUTSIDE PLAYING!!

We would leave home in the morning and play all day, as long as we were back when the streetlights came on. No one was able to reach us all day. And we were O.K.

We would spend hours building our hand made go-carts out of old prams and then ride down the road at Caine Road, only to use our foot as the brakes. We went up hill catching spider for collection, never afraid of being bite.

We went to the Big World Cinema for watching movie at HKD0.2 a movie Sunday Morning. I can still remember all the stories of the movie, though it was black and white but we find a lot of excitement. Now you can watch any movie at home VOD, of DVD, but seems that is too easy to get and too easy to forget!

We did not have Play stations, Nintendo Wii , X-boxes, no video games at all, no video/dvd films, No mobile phones, no personal computers, no Internet or Internet chat rooms..........

WE HAD FRIENDS and we went outside to the gathering places and found them! We fell out of trees, got cut, broke bones and teeth and there were noLawsuits from these accidents.We eat a lot of oily stuff in the Chinese New Year but never filled enough, we were hungry as we played a lot.

We rode bikes or walked to a friend's house and knocked on the door or rang the bell, or just yelled for them!

We went to Peddler Street to watch other school girls real underwear and bet the colour for ten cents, Not like those stupid chap that watch it on the monitor sceen on internet...nowadays!

We poured water and stuffed used battery cells into cars exhaust pipe and watched from far and see how the water jet and smokes would be generated! Especial treat to thought who drove a big car with a Star in the front.

Our parents didn't invent stupid names for their kids like Chloe, Kitty, Yuki Victoria…but father in church assigned us names with Peter, Paul, Mary and Sandy!

Mother went to church for milk powder and raised a family of 2 boys and two girls! We did not feel shame as that was very Delicious milk drinks.

We had public exams and we had no one go for suicide for unexpected result. I was happy to go for technical school as I did not feel shame not able to enter The University of Hong Kong and programmed to be lawyers, Doctor and or Architect after three years.

And YOU are one of them!

CONGRATULATIONS!You might want to share this with others who have had the luck to grow up as kids, before the lawyers and the government regulated our lives for our own good.And while you are at it, forward it to your kids so they will know how brave their parents were.

Same Service

Same Service ·
A husband visited a marriage counselor and said, "When we were first married, I would come home from the office, my wife would bring my slippers and our cute little dog would run around barking.

Now after ten years it's all different, I come home, the dog brings the slippers and my wife runs around barking."
"Why complain?" said the counselor. "You're still getting the same service!"


Love Your Enemy
From his death bed, the husband called his wife and said, "One month after I die I want you to marry Samy." "Samy! But he is your enemy!"
"Yes, I know that! I've suffered all these years so let him suffer now."